Nov 9, 2015

Perspective: Get a Closer Look

One day on my morning walk/run, I glanced across the parking lot and saw a man somewhat casually standing at the back of a jeep. He wore a black jacket, jeans, and a hat, had his hands in his pockets, and appeared to be looking into the window as he leaned his shoulder against the back of the jeep.

Heart pounding, I kept walking to get a closer look at what he was doing before deciding what to do.

Good thing I did.

The jeep in question is in the upper left of this picture.

My morning eyes aren’t the greatest and I wear glasses for distance, but wow, I was so far off on this one I couldn’t believe it. Turned out to be a spare tire on the back of the jeep. Something in my mind caused me to see what wasn’t there. I wasn’t close enough to have the right perspective – my first glance was totally wrong.

The same type of misperception happened on two other occasions last week.

In the first, a very dear friend posted a comment on my blog that I misinterpreted and thought was “harsh”. My husband said he thought it was a very encouraging comment, which I realized was true when I read it from the perspective of knowing her heart for me.

The second was the way someone in my family handled a situation that I thought they should have handled differently. I let them know I was disappointed, thankfully in a nice way. When they explained why they did what they did, I realized I interpreted their actions totally wrong. Again, I didn’t have the right perspective and took something the wrong way.

In both instances, I overreacted to my “first glance” instead of taking time to get a closer look.

I didn’t take time to really think about what they said or did. I didn’t ask God for His perspective. Had I done either, I would have known the truth and avoided the sorrow of having judged both of them incorrectly.

Yes, lack of the right perspective caused me to make faulty judgments. Even though I didn’t realize it at the time, I put motives on them that weren’t there. For whatever reason, the words/actions initially hit me the wrong way and I overreacted. With a heavy heart, I apologized to both of them.

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” (Luke 6:37, NIV)

Thankfully they both understood and accepted my apology. I learned once again that I need to think and pray before reacting, and take time to get the right perspective.


  1. This has been my whole weekend into today!

  2. We are all in process. The best gift we can give God is exactly what you do best…self/confrontation! God bless you as your journey continues and as your vulnerability helps others to take the risk of being vulnerable. This is a compliment. (smile)

  3. Thank you, Myra :-). You are such a blessing, you always have been. Love you!


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